Do you ever feel guilty about spending so much time on your writing when it isn't yet paying the bills?
Feel like your progress is leading nowhere? Feel like writing is a waste of time, and you "should" be doing something "better"? Do you feel bad for enjoying the process when things are actually going well?
If you answered "yes" to any of those statements, you’ve experienced writer's guilt.
Writer's guilt: A persistent state of mind that plagues good writers into believing that their passion is somehow worthless or wrong.
Writer's guilt is the result of the weight of other people's expectations of you.
Alternatively, your perception of others people's expectations of you.
If you're experiencing this kind of guilt, it means that somewhere along the line a mean word, a snide remark or a cultural discontent affected you and caused you to feel like what you do isn't worthy enough for this world. It's been embedded so deeply into your mind that it often sounds like your voice, but if you dive deep you'll almost always realise that it isn't you at all.
It's not natural to feel guilty about your creativity.
To get rid of this dreadful guilt, what you need to ask yourself is this:
"Are other people's expectations of me more important than my destiny?"
No matter how much you care about what your family, friends or significant other want from you, you need to think about what you want from yourself, because that's truly the most important thing.
And if you're worrying about anyone else's opinions other than those of your closest friends and family? You shouldn't even be taking them into consideration. Really.
If you feel you can give up because you're feeling a little guilt, then by all means go ahead, you're obviously destined for something else. However, if you know deep down you need writing in your life (and always will) then your friends, family and significant other will have to respect that.
And here's the best part:
Because they love you, they will.
Stephanie Lennox is an award-winning author, keynote speaker, holistic writing coach and wellness advocate. She’s also the founder of The Authorship Program®, a 12-week immersive experience that helps writers conquer fear in their creative lives. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Please share this post: