You know what's more painful than going all out and trying to achieve you creative dreams?
Not doing so.
Because your soul will never stop wanting it, and your fingers will never stop aching for it.
There's nothing more damaging to the soul than not being who you were meant to be, and nothing more damaging than not writing, when your calling is to write. So if you know that you haven't been giving it you all lately and aren't quite sure why, let's see if any of these thoughts and feelings are at the heart of the problem.
You think you have time (haha, hahaha.)
Are you so busy pushing your writing career into the future, and thinking about it in future terms, that you haven't even started on it in the present? Have you ever noticed that when you talk about publishing your first book, it's always "later" or "tomorrow" or "next week"?
Sacrificing real work for daydreaming is a classic sign that you’re scared of using the power you have to change your own destiny. But here's the thing:
There's nothing riskier than waiting on tomorrow to make a start on your dreams.
The situation you were in today may never be the same again. The opportunities you had today may never come around again. Your life, your dreams, your health, your options could all change at any time - for better or for worse. No time will ever be perfect, so stop waiting and start now.
You're scared that you might fail (so you're holding back.)
As a coach, it never fails to amaze me how people self-sabotage themselves. Clients tell me that they want to write more than anything in the world, but when I set them a task, they find every excuse under the sun to not do it.
They're usually afraid of making a real effort, in case their work doesn't turn out as brilliant as they imagined it would. But here's the thing about that:
If you're not working to the best of your ability, you have no one but yourself to blame when it fails.
When you do your absolute best, you won't feel any shame, even if you fail. You would grow from the experience, you'd realise failure was not the end of the world, and you could try again with your head held high. But if you don't try your best, you're wasting your time. It won't feel good, it won't deliver results, and you'll always wonder: "What if I'd given it my best shot?"
You're overwhelmed (I hear you.)
We're all overwhelmed. If the pressures we all carry on our shoulders every day were physical, we'd all be pretty ripped right now - flat stomachs and six pack abs from carrying it all.
When you're feeling overwhelmed, it just means you need to take a break.
You'll find inspiration soon enough. You'll feel the urge to get started on something right away, and when it happens, attack with full force.
No matter how much you think you'll want to do it later, nothing can compare to the excitement and drive you get in that first moment. Use it!
You're waiting for "God in the machine" (but he's not in there.)
If you're waiting for "God in the machine," it means you're waiting for a solution to your struggles to appear one day, by magic. Like a pen, for instance, that downloads your manuscript from your brain right onto the page! (Okay, that's a little over the top, but a girl can dream...)
You may not be waiting for something quite as unrealistic, but even waiting for "inspiration" and "motivation" are examples of god in the machine.
You're not in a novel, finding a magical item is highly unlikely, and happy endings just aren't guaranteed...by any measure.
The only way you can secure a fulfilling future is if you set out to create one for yourself.
Your entire success depends on you and the choices you make, and on being responsible for your own actions. It might be scary at first, but it's way better than leaving it to The Universe to determine your success or failure in life.
You've given up already (nooo!)
You may not have said it out loud, and you might never say it out loud, but that doesn't mean you haven't had some thoughts.
It may be that your subconscious has convinced you that you're not ready for greatness yet, or that the creative life just isn't a possibility in your life right now. Or it may be that at some point you concluded that you're just an "ordinary" person, and that your vision is just too big. And so, it ends up that everything you do is half-hearted, or you stop trying at all.
If you do have any of these thoughts, there's nothing I can do to change them for you. If you believe you're ordinary and can't do it, that's your truth - and no one will ever be able to change that besides you. But that's actually the good news. Because at any time in your life, you can decide not to be simply ordinary anymore. You can raise your own standards, and answer the call.
The world is waiting for you.
- Stop denying your call because you think you have time. - (Tweet this!)
- Success is not created through half-assed efforts. - (Tweet this!)
- Sometimes the answer to your problems will only appear when you're taking a break. - (Tweet this!)
- Stop waiting for someone else to write your happy ending, you're not in a movie. - (Tweet this!)
- You don't have to be ordinary. - (Tweet this!)
Stephanie Lennox is an award-winning author, keynote speaker, holistic writing coach and wellness advocate. She’s also the founder of The Authorship Program®, a 12-week immersive experience that helps writers conquer fear in their creative lives. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Please share this post: