Everyday I talk to writers feeling pressured to be someone other than themselves, thanks to social media and what is currently deemed as "cool".

Hip. On trend. Hashtag popular.

Last week they were secure in themselves and what they wanted to do, rocking with their #wholewriter...today, they're confused because what this other person is doing looks so cool that now they can't even remember what they wanted or who they were before.

“I’ve always wanted to be a writer, they say, but I saw this person doing X so now I want to do that! I think it’s time for a change.”

They're not truly interested in this new passion or hobby, but they've seen someone else doing well with it, so now suddenly convinced that this is the way.

It’s all about seeking the easier option, the faster option, the path that’s already been travelled these days. The one that seems simple because there's a stick to measure ourselves against.

Because taking influence from someone else is so much easier and faster than developing your own purpose, mission and goals, and devoting ourselves to them, isn't it?

How quickly we discard ourselves and our talents for fear that "it won’t work out", or that it’s not “cool” enough.

Your path, your identity and your image of yourself will always be growing and expanding, and it WILL be swayed and influenced by different things as you continue to live your life.

But sometimes, when you get lit up by someone else’s fire, you subconsciously forget your own.

We're pulled around and influenced by new things everyday - some good, some bad, some completely wrong for us - when all The Universe wants is to do is to pull us back and scream:

You don’t need to change yourself, no matter how shiny other people appear, or how cool the next big thing appears to be.

You best believe that The Universe has its own unique plans for you.

So take a deep breath, and trust that inner voice that knows exactly what would be best for you. And whenever you feel fear trying to take you off your path in the form of someone else's new product or video or latest instagram pic, you need to say to yourself:

“Wow, this is amazing, just like my future self/work/mission is going to be”.

Admire others, and be influenced by others, but don’t forget who you are.

No one on this earth is so amazing that you should overwrite yourself trying to become them.

Yes they are cool, and so are you.

Yes they’ve found their way, and so will you.


Stephanie Lennox is an award-winning author, keynote speaker, holistic writing coach and wellness advocate. She’s also the founder of The Authorship Program®, a 12-week immersive experience that helps writers conquer fear in their creative lives. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Please share this post: