Who wants to be their best self?

Even as a recovering perfectionist, I know I do. And there's nothing wrong with that!

As a culture though, we've started to put this idea of our "best selves" on too high a pedestal. We expect too much of ourselves, and that only creates disappointment and self-loathing in the long term, which isn't good for anyone. So I'd like to propose a change. Because here's what you should know:

Your best self isn't the impossible standard you hold yourself to...it's how you show up in the everyday. 

No singular accomplishment, no matter how badly you want it right now, will ever make you say: 

"Great! Now I've reached my greatest potential.

The goal posts from The Universe would shift, and you'd soon find another goal to attach your self-worth to. So that's not what being your best self is about.

Your best self is not the person on the bestseller list. It's the person who wrote a page today, even when they didn’t want to.

Your best self isn’t the person who “needs” to lose thirty pounds. It is the person who chose to buy gluten-free desserts instead of defaulting to donuts.

Your best self isn't the person on a writer's panel with the latest and greatest. It's the person who has very little right now, but is still fighting hard for that dream.

Don’t force yourself forward, because all that does is stop you from appreciating the moment. And the moment is precious. If you're always thinking about all you could be, it only takes away from who you are now. 

In this moment you are everything. In this moment, all you have been, and everything you will be is within you.

Don't bully yourself into believing you should always be doing more.

It's ten times more rewarding to think:

"I might not be where I want to be right now, but it's nothing for me to worry about. It's important for me to enjoy the journey." 

Don't cripple yourself with the idea that you're not being your best self, because you have the power to be in every moment, as soon as you choose to be. 

The feeling isn't attached to a single, tangible achievement or object. 

It's in how you feel and what you do.


Stephanie Lennox is an award-winning author, keynote speaker, holistic writing coach and wellness advocate. She’s also the founder of The Authorship Program®, a 12-week immersive experience that helps writers conquer fear in their creative lives. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Please share this post: